The Awkwardness that is Starbucks

when will they get it right?..

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As you already know if you read my blog, I’m a Starbucks addict. Heck no am I afraid to admit it. But during my every encounter at this heavenly place, it seems something awkward always has to happen.

this is pretty much what every visit is like..

I wait in the long ass line, pretending to be on my phone but also angling my screen so that the snoopy girl behind me doesn’t see my ugly snapchats (or try to photobomb).

When it’s finally my then to order I still have to say “hold on” and decide my order because I was too preoccupied trying to look preoccupied while I was in line to think of my order. After about 50 seconds of thinking, I still order my Skinny Vanilla Latte that I’ve order for the past 6 years..

Next is time for the dooming question. “What name can I put on the cup?” “Mikah.” “How do you spell that?” “It really doesn’t matter” (sometimes I spell it for them anyway, but I like to see how it’ll turn out now).

Disclaimer: even when I spell my name out and literally pronounce it for them, it still comes up on the counter “mika” “mike” “mila” “mikala” and my latest favorite, “miki.” Oh and getting the person to pronounce it is worse than brushing my dogs teeth.

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Then it’s time to pay and even though I have way over the $4.33 it is to buy my drink, I still have anxiety over the fact that my card could get declined (it happened sometime back in 2004 and I’ve never gotten over it). When my card goes through I can wipe the upper lip sweat off..

It’s time to walk up to the counter and there is usually about 5 other people there. Usually I pretend to be on my phone again, or uselessly scroll through my Instagram feed. Well the awkwardest part is if you didn’t hear them call out the drink up there (WHY DONT THEY JUST CALL NAMES SINCE THEY ASKED FOR IT AND THE SPELLING), you have to awkwardly turn the cup to see what kind it is.. I usually stand about 4 feet back and arch forward and use as little fingers as possible in case it’s not my drink and the Bellevue b*tch (for lack of better words) behind me yells and says I tainted her cup and got germs on it by turning it for 3 seconds.

the awkwardness is over when I get to leave.

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Friend shaming and coping with it

My whole life I have fought with the constant idea that people copying me is not a compliment.

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I hate it. I hate it more than anything in fact. I love being my own person and I love the things that make me unique. So of course, when a friend copies my every move, it irks me more than anything else in the world. More than cotton balls, more than wet hair after a shower touching my back, and certainly more than loud chewing. I just hate it.

But recently, thanks to a long conversation I had with my boyfriend, I decided to look at this in a new light. Maybe instead of friend shaming and getting angry, I can use this to help this desperate friend in need. Help them become their own person and not feel the need to copy my every move.

When they mimic your style.
Seriously this is the biggest form of flattery. Even though it pisses me off, because I certainly have my own unique style, it’s kinda cool that someone else wants to dress just like you. So next time you choose to get mad at this, just brush it off and know that you still are your own person.

When they copy your hobbies.
Just know that you are the authentic one. You do things that help your personality shine and help you cope with day to day things. Whether they copy your love for yoga or whatever, just know it’s not benefitting them in the same way because it isn’t their thing, it’s yours. Try to help them flourish in their own hobbies, or even find their own hobbies. Or hey, maybe even start doing this hobby they (you) [now] love, together.

When they mimic your relationship.
You cannot live through someone else’s relationship. This may bug you, and this may put a damper on your relationship, but just know they don’t have the same relationship as you. They wish they did and so they are mimicking what you have. And you could use this to realize that you have a great relationship that they envy. Instead of being upset, talk to them about their relationship. Help them find things that make their relationship unique. Show them that you don’t have the same relationship.

When they copy your habits.
This one probably bugs me the most.. Whether it be then copying your eating habits, the way you talk, your gestures, anything, it’s just obnoxious. There is only room for one you. And that’s just my point, they can copy your movements all they want, but they cannot be you. Don’t let it get to you. Maybe start acting different and see if they change too. Point it out to them. Point it out at the moment they do it. Push them to be their own person.

Use this to help them.
Don’t you think it goes deeper than all of this materialistic stuff? I hate worrying about this because I should just be able to be myself and do what I want.. But with a shadow that’s hard. The best thing to do is realize that there is an underlying issue (maybe jealousy, maybe lack of knowing who they are, maybe the need for guidance, maybe the need for independence and they see you have that) and just be a friend. Be a friend who is there to help them and maybe you do guide them. But guide them in their own direction. You can’t live your whole life copying someone, you’ll never be truly happy.

Make sure they know.
Whenever you’re upset, the other person deserves to know. You can’t keep it in and hold it against them, that’s just not fair to them. Be gentle, be kind, but get to the point and tell them that it’s really upsetting you. Let them know that it’s hurting your relationship and your friendship may end if it continues.

But you know what? Above all, be a friend. This friend sounds confused and like they’re unsure of themselves and nothing is worse than that feeling. Put your feelings aside (not too far aside) and help them blossom into who they are.

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Stable is boring

maybe I take being stable for granted

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So my whole life, I have loved to write. I have written a few short stories and I’ve often thought about maybe even writing a novel. But the kind of writing I like to do isn’t all the fantasy crap.. About vampires and glitter or falling in love in Paris (although I love reading all that). I like to write what’s real. What’s right in front of me. What happens to me.

Now all that being said… It’s not easy to write something intriguing or even remotely interesting when you’re life is so….. Stable. I mean, I read “a child called it” and cried for nights on end for this poor child. I couldn’t put the book down.. It was so interesting. I felt in every way possible for this man’s journey. He had such a hard life and made something of it, a book. Well, that’s where the greatest stories come from, from a terribly hard life.

Where is my great story? Where is my tragedy? Where is my anything?

Of course I can write you a book about all the places I’ve traveled (been done), about my wonderful, crazy, and neurotic family (been done), about my passion for yoga and how it’s gotten me through my toughest days, maybe even about my family immigrating from Germany?? (BEEN DONE). What irks me the most is that I have nothing to contribute. I want to share my deepest thoughts but I don’t have anything to show you that I’m real too..

But you know what positive I learned about this? I’M STABLE. I’m lucky to have lived a stable life. With great tragedy comes great books and great movies and great things to indulge myself in when I’m bored beyond belief.. But aren’t I lucky to not have lived these terrible things?

Don’t you think a child would give up being beaten for a life without stories? Wouldn’t they give up being moved around house to house for a “boring” one house family? Wouldn’t they give all of that up for your sad, uninteresting life?

Never once have I read a sad book and thought “I wish I had lived this so I could have written this great book first.” Of course not, that’s nonsense. I feel empathy, I feel the want to help, I feel the need to reach out and tell them “I’m here for you.. Thanks for sharing your story.” But that being said, I have this crazy underlying jealousy about the fact that they have something to write about. And on the other hand they have a not so crazy jealousy that I have nothing to write about.

Take a step back and look at your situation.. Don’t wish something you don’t fully understand. Don’t underestimate the pain someone else has been through and minimize it to a good book. They lived it. And that’s what truly makes it such a good read.. Thank you.

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Break the Habit

let’s talk about things that make us happy instead of things that made us sad

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Hey, I have an idea. How about instead of talking about our feelings and why they upset us.. Maybe we talk about the things that make us happy?
I know you have all heard this many, many times: “you need to talk about your feelings. Get them out. It’ll help.” Well, did it help?

I know for some cases, such as therapy, or terrible things that need to be talked about, talking about your issues is one of the best forms of coping and will truly help your problem; this topic is not just black and white.

But I know from experience that when I talk about my bad feelings every day, to “get them out,” it has me feeling crappy. Id rather talk about warm beaches, or my upcoming vacations, or the stuff I bought at Nordstrom yesterday, or my amazing boyfriend.

Talk about things when they need to be talked about. When you need to let it out. But don’t overuse this idea, you’ll get stuck in the pattern.

Be positive. Be happy.

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The BEST workout secret to lose weight fast.

there is no secret, get off your ass and work for it.

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I can’t tell you enough how happy I am to see that everyone is trying to workout and be healthy… But with this lifestyle comes hard work and dedication, because it is just that: a lifestyle. It’s not a pill you can take, it’s not a magic juice/fruit you eat, it’s not a secret new workout. It’s hard work.

So as I do love this whole workout phase, I know it’s just that: a phase. I know this because I fell into that pattern. I tried to start working out again after about 2 years of not working out. I tried to find all these easy ways that will make me happy about my body right away. I felt unmotivated and gave up because I wasn’t seeing results quickly.

do you know why?

Because the juicing diets are cleanses not diets. You can’t workout for ten minutes and expect abs in 21 days. You can’t expect the easy way out to work. You gotta work hard for it.

People don’t understand that a healthy lifestyle isn’t easy. It’s not an easy way out, it’s not a Golden ticket, you are not exempt from hard work. You are just like the rest of us and if you want that amazing body that everyone can have, you get off your damn ass and go get it.

thank you.

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Dogs are better than people

•A dog friend can’t argue, is up for anything, eats whatever you give them, and shows you undying love•
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So I was given the crazy task of babysitting two dogs, on top of my own for this past week. It’s been 5 days so far, one left, and needless to say I’m exhausted. But these dogs have given me the best company possible, and I can’t say I’ve had a week this good in a long time…

Even though I was working every day from 9-5 and bringing 3 dogs with me, even though I literally haven’t had one second alone in 5 days, even though it takes me an extra hour to get ready just to leave the house for ten minutes.. I wouldn’t have it any other way. These dogs have shown me so much compassion, love, and honestly made me feel content.

The dogs don’t have complaints about where we go, heck they’re even excited to go to Walgreens. I just love their human-like, crazy personalities. I thought it would be selfish not to share the pictures I’ve gotten…

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Hana • Brussels Griffon
Charlie • Weimaraner

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Yoga does something that nothing else can

it frees your mind

I haven’t always loved yoga. And I definitely don’t recommend it as your daily dose of exercise. Of course it’s a good way to help your body stay lean and definitely increase flexibility, but yoga itsself doesn’t actually burn many calories. That being said, yoga isn’t only for the health/benefit of your body.

But yoga heals the mind. Actually, technically speaking yoga is a state of mind, and a state of well being. Let our mind be at ease and if you’re still thinking, you’re not in yoga. Yoga is used to rest the mind and to grow more in touch with your body. Let’s be honest, we could all use an hour or two to every once in a while (or daily!) to not think.

When I was in a weird funk as I like to call it, I fell in love with yoga. It’s my quiet time, my alone time, my me time. It helped me understand my body and why I was feeling down all the time. It helped me express myself when I didn’t know how. It saved me..

if you think yoga is boring or too slow, you don’t know yoga

Whatever your pre- judgements are on yoga, erase them for just an hour and try it. You may be surprised how much you like it, just like I was…

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So what is Zen, you ask?

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Nowadays, it’s more common to hear people say zen is a garden you put on your desk that you can rake when you’re stressed but no one actually does it’s just for looks or an activity that takes your mind off of what’s bugging you or some other random bullcrap that people say when they’re following a trend instead of being authentic and actually knowing what “they’re into”.

That being said, the true question to ask is “when is zen? And zen is now. Zen is being completely and fully aware of the here and now. Don’t worry about the past for it’s the past, don’t fret the future for it hasn’t come yet… Be in the now, because you are here now. The main point is to not get lost in the past or future because life will quickly pass you by… live life in a state of zen•

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